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STEP ONE – “We admitted that we were powerless over lust — that our lives had become unmanageable.” The following questions are suggested as a guide in working this step.  Most of the work is in thinking about the answers, dredging up the pertinent recollections, and making notes, so that I can write it out.  This […]

Sexual Addiction Triggers When working with men that struggle with sexual addiction, I often will discuss their triggers that precede the last acting out behaviors.  The triggers usually fall into the acronym B-L-A-S-T-E-D. The more the sex addict can understand his real need rather than the need for sex, the more he can replace unhealthy […]

We have recently added a sexual addiction questionnaire to our website to assist visitors in their assessment of whether they may have sexual addiction.  This screening measure is not designed to make a diagnosis of a sexual addiction or take the place of a professional diagnosis or consultation.  We have gathered 25 different questions that […]

Core Belief #4: Sex Is My Greatest Need The 4th and final core belief  of a sex addict is “Sex is one of my greatest needs.  I’ll do anything to get it.”  Most men that I work with in my sex addiction counseling practice will often deny that this is true in their thinking until […]

The 3rd core belief of a sex addict is “I can’t trust anyone to meet my needs but me.”  This belief originates in childhood when the sex addict may have learned to meet other family member’s needs but felt rejection, abandonment, or neglect when it came to his/her own needs being met.

Distorted Core Belief #2 “If you really knew me, you’d reject me” This second belief derives from the first belief of shame: I am a bad and unworthy person.  The sex addict fears above everything else in his life being rejected and therefore, alone.  The sex addict will keep secrets, lie, hide, create a false […]

Distorted Core Belief 1: Unworth Dr. Patrick Carnes identifies four core beliefs (distorted) beliefs of sex addicts.  Here is Core Belief #1: 1. I am a bad and unworthy person. This belief at its core is shame.  Often the sex addict will have thoughts of himself as “not good enough”, “less than others”, “stupid”, “unworthy […]

Sexual Addiction Victory Victory over sexual addictive behaviors must derive from a change in attitude of one’s mind and heart.  This changed attitude only comes from an unconditional surrender to God.  It is a decision to stop turning to the sexual act and rely upon the provisions of a Power Greater than self.  The new […]

Divide the notebook into these five sections: Childhood Experiences (birth to age twelve), Adolescent Experiences (age thirteen to seventeen), Current Life (from the start of your journal and going forward), Recovery Exercises, and Future Plans. In the Childhood section, record your memories and feelings about your psychotraumatic experiences.  Record your positive memories and experiences here […]

  Sex Addicts Daily Renewal Exercise Recovering from sexual addiction requires a daily commitment to working on staying sober and being accountable to another recovering member. Here are some questions that the recovering sex addict can answer daily to another program member: Are you willing to admit you are powerless over your addiction and that you cannot […]

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