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To calm yourself down, you will need to learn some positive ways to teach your body to calm down when you are upset.  The first rule of positive coping is: don’t hold it in.  Avoidance is a negative coping strategy, and so dealing with your anger is important.  It’s normal to fee sadness, anxiety, anger […]


Sexual Addiction Recovery Support System Every person that struggles with sexual addiction and desires recovery will need to have a support community of other recovering sex addicts. Initially, my clients will often be resistant to joining either a counseling group or 12-step sex addiction recovery group.  My response is “If you are truly sick and […]


“The pursuit of purity is not about the suppression of lust, but about the reorientation of one’s life to a larger goal.” Dietrich Bonhoeffer Often in recovery from sexual addiction, the goal is to stop the out of control sexual behaviors and to maintain sexual sobriety.  I believe this is a healthy and good goal […]


Partners Non-Negotiable Boundaries The partner of sex addicts are in a difficult situation of not wanting to control the sex addict’s recovery or behaviors but wanting to feel safe in the relationship.  The betrayal by the sex addict has essentially destroyed any trust or foundation of security in the relationship.  


There are three main categories of negative coping. Drugs and Alcohol Venting Avoidance If you are using these methods to calm yourself, you may be succeeding in the short therm, but you are hurting yourself in the long run. Drugs and Alcohol Many, many people use drugs and alcohol for negative coping.  If you are […]


There are two ways that people calm themselves down: positive coping and negative coping.  Both of these methods calm you down.  Make no mistake–you can get the stress out by using either positive or negative coping.  But there is a big difference between the two. With negative coping, you succeed in calming yourself down but […]


Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction Often I hear the question from men “What is the big deal with watching porn?  It is legal and no one gets hurt.  Isn’t it normal for men to watch porn?” My reply is to challenge the question about it being “normal”.  I usually affirm that it is probably normal but […]


The JAMA Psychiatry article publish in May 2014 is the first brain-scan study on porn users.  According to the results of the study, Researchers found several brain changes that correlated with the amount of porn was consumed. The people that were studied were moderate porn users, not classified as addicted. In this study, experts at Germany’s Max Planck Institute […]


Signs of Depression and Need For Counseling Sometimes we are sad, disappointed, lonely, or grieving some loss in our life but how can we know if we are suffering from depression?  When depression or sadness becomes overwhelming or lasts for long periods of time, then you can begin to accept that you have a possible […]


STEP TWELVE – “Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to Sexaholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.” At this point in our recovery process, we must be practicing the first two maintenance steps, Steps Ten and Eleven, to the best of […]


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