It is estimated that at least 40 - 60% of all couples struggle with a sexual problem at some time in the course of their relationship. Sex and relationship problems often go hand in hand. In most cases, sexual and relationship functioning can be improved with proper diagnosis and treatment.
A healthy and satisfying sex life is an essential component to having a balanced and fulfilled relationship. Almost everyone has difficulty talking about this very personal area and yet many individuals and couples need help with sexual problems at some point in their life. Fear and embarrassment often keep people from discussing sexual dysfunction. Our Denver, Colorado sex therapist will work with individuals and couples in a way that will allow you to comfortably discuss these subjects so we can work on finding solutions.
Sexual problems can be in many different forms and include:
These problems can be treated in individual therapy but are best addressed in couples therapy. Choosing a Certified Sex Therapist in Denver, Colorado to assist you with your sexual and relationship problems means you will be working with a professional who has specialized training in sexual dysfunctions, can complete comprehensive evaluations of your sexual barriers, can provide short term, highly focused treatment and is very comfortable with discussing sexual problems.
Sex therapy is a professional and ethical treatment approach to problems of sexual function and expression. It reflects the recognition that sexuality is of legitimate concern to professionals and that it is the right of individuals to seek expert assistance with their sexual difficulties. Sex therapy, then, is the focusing of specialized clinical skills on helping men and women as individuals and/or as couples to deal more effectively with their sexual expression.
The importance of sexual function for individuals varies, of course, but for many it is closely tied in with their total concept of self-identity. For these individuals, problems in sexual function may lead to devaluation of self. "When I cannot feel good about my sexuality, how can I feel good about myself?" Dissatisfaction with the sexual relationship and the loss of that shared intimacy, in many instances, may lead to negative feelings and attitudes which are destructive to the relationship. Many marriages end, therefore, because of unresolved sexual differences and difficulties.
First of all, you can expect to be talking in detail about sex. One cannot solve sexual problems by talking around them! Neither can one gain new sexual information unless clear, direct instruction is given!
Second, you might expect to be offered the opportunity to add to your knowledge by reading selected books and/or viewing clinical films designed specifically for use in sex therapy. You should not, however, do anything which you do not understand, and you must reserve for yourself the right to question the purpose of an assignment. It is your right to decline or postpone acting on the suggestions of your therapist, rather than allowing yourself to be pushed into behavior which might actually increase your discomfort. Every assignment, task or experience presented by the therapist should fit into an understandable and acceptable treatment plan - and you have the right to question the procedures.
Third, you should expect sex therapists to be non-judgmental and to portray their own comfort in giving and receiving sexual information. While you might expect to be challenged and confronted on important issues, you should also expect to experience a respectful attitude toward those values which you do not wish to change.
Fourth, you should not expect to be asked to disrobe in the presence of your therapist. Sexual contact between client and therapist is considered unethical and is destructive to the therapeutic relationship. Neither should you expect to be required to perform sexually with your partner in the presence of your therapist. Overt sexual activities just should not occur in your therapist's presence, even though the talk, material and the assignments must, by the nature of the problem, be specifically sexual and at times bluntly explicit.
Finally, you should feel that you are heard and adequately represented in your sexual therapy. You should feel that you are being treated as a unique individual!
Sex therapy is a new, dynamic approach to very real human problems. It is based on the assumptions that sex is good, that relationships should be meaningful and that interpersonal intimacy is a desirable goal. Sex therapy is by its nature a very sensitive treatment modality and by necessity must include respect for the client's values. It must be nonjudgmental and non-sexist, with recognition of the equal rights of man and woman to full expression and enjoyment of healthy sexual relationships.